Girl dating two guys at the same time, should i stop dating her??????
Один из прямоугольников вдруг закрыла чья-то тень.
- Вовсе нет, - ответила Мидж. - Замечательный одеколон, Грег.
Thoughts on a girl dating multiple guys at once? Here is my situation: There is guy I have been dating for the past 7 months. He made it clear early on that he doesn't want anything serious, so I consider him more of a FWB than anything else.
We often do things that feel coupley- we go out on dates, we cuddle, have intimate conversations, and sleep over at each other's places- but I don't think his feelings towards me or lack thereof have changed.
It's for the better, as we would not be compatible in a relationship. But I love spending time with him, and we still hang out on a fairly consistent basis once a week or every other week.
At first I was dating only him, but I was a bit unsatisfied because I would eventually like to be in a relationship that is actually going somewhere. So I decided to start dating other guys. I went on several dates with three different guys and had sex with one of them, but it didn't go anywhere.
Meanwhile, I continued to see my FWB on the side. I am prepared to break it off with my FWB once I find a guy that I am ready to get serious with, but I just haven't found him yet. All of this in consideration, I see no moral issue with what I'm doing. Some of my friends don't agree with this. They think I need to make it serious with my FWB or end it, and only date one guy at a time. They don't say it outright, but basically they think I'm a slut and have no self control.
My "number" for the year is a bit high since I had sex with three other guys before I met my FWB one was a drunken ONS that I regretted immediately after so I don't count it, but they do. What would you think about a girl in my position? Am I somehow doing myself, my FWB, or my other dates a disservice by seeing multiple people at a time? How many partners in one year is too many? Maybe I need to reign it in a bit. Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with dating multiple people so long as no exclusive relationship has been established.
Having said that, I think it's important to ask yourself if this current FWB relationship is helping or hindering your search for an exclusive relationship.
From the sound of it, you and your FWB are dating just like anybody else except he has no intention of becoming exclusive with you. I think that if you want exclusivity with this man, you need to say so and be willing to walk away if he doesn't agree. Otherwise, you're wasting your precious time. Actually I think my problem is more that I don't want to be exclusive with my FWB but I don't want to stop seeing him either. According to my friends this is a bit like "having your cake and eating it too", but you are right- I think as long as I haven't established exclusivity with anyone then I have the right to see whoever I want.
That said, you are also right that it is important to look critically at my FWB situation and how it's affecting the situation. It very well could be hindering my search for other men, but then again things fell apart between me and the other guys I dated for reasons that probably wouldn't have changed had I not been seeing my FWB. I have been in your position. When I would have what I called "moments of morals" I would often turn to my best friend.
Our conversation was always the same: And that is just it. If you are protecting yourself, and you are not being hurt, who is anyone to tell you what is right and what isn't. That's an awesome way of looking at it! It's my life and I feel totally comfortable and safe about what I'm doing, so it really shouldn't matter at all.
Sounds like I need a friend like yours! As long as everyone knows whats going on tell whoever you sleep with you have multiple partners go for it. If no one is under the impression that you are exclusive, you're fine. This is refreshing to hear. And that's what I thought- assume the person you are dating is seeing other people until you have the exclusivity talk. Glad to know that some people agree with me on that. You are being safe and don't have any moral obligations to the fact then keep doing what you are doing.
You are an adult and can do as you please, don't feel like a bad person because you like sex, I'm sure you're attractive. As long as everybody in the picture understands that you're not exclusive I personally don't see any harm in it. If you have no problem with them seeing other people then I don't see why they would either.
I mean I haven't outright said to any of them that I'm not exclusive, but I certainly haven't said that I am. I always believe that exclusivity is not assumed until it's been communicated.
And of course I have no problem with them seeing other people; it's only fair, after all. Thank you for pointing this out! I think that my friends don't understand that I just genuinely enjoy having sex, I don't have any alternative motives and I'm not trying to stir up drama in my life. But I will try to do a better job living my life and not caring what others think about it.
Who doesn't enjoy having sex?! Just keep doing what makes you happy and what will benefit you without hurting others, forget what everybody else says. Why do you need to be with a man no matter what? On the other hand, what number is high? I have slept with over 80 girls. For people who have slept with 5 my number is huge, for a person that has slept with my number is a joke. I wouldn't say that I always need to be with a man, but I would certainly like to be with one if I can.
I am self-sufficient, independent and mostly confident, but I crave that affection- I'm only human, I suppose. There's nothing wrong with sleeping with many people or doing multiple dating as long as there is full disclosure to any guys you're dating if they ask if you are with or have been with anyone else while dating them.
However, you must beware that not everyone is going to be attracted enough to be "serious" with a woman who sleeps around a lot. Just a fact from a pragmatic point of view.
It may turn a lot of guys off or may help them to see you as nothing more than a temporary sex partner when you are looking for more. If you don't mind the fact that this might turn off a lot of guys and certainly not all of them , you should have no problems.
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