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While this is normal, every human has good and bad qualities, there is a chance these Nigerian men only have these traits, as a result of the way they are raised. It is no secret that the Nigerian society is patriarchal; as such, the men are not only granted unfair advantages upon birth, they are also raised to believe certain notions that can be harmful. This eventually creates problems for not just the men, but the society and world in general.
Monogamy is a Myth The Nigerian man grows up watching his father cheat on his mom, while his mom cheerfully looks the other way. He sees his brothers sneak different girls into the house, and other male figures getting away with randy behaviours.
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He then grows up with the mindset that monogamy is the last thing he feels he owes a woman. Even if he is in love with her he still keeps side chics or even baby mamas. He is hardly bothered that the female feels hurt, used, and uncared for. He expects women to accept it as a reality of life, because he believes monogamy is a myth. It is essential that he realizes that monogamy actually is practical and can be achieved. It is weak of a man to hide under the assumption that monogamy is a myth.
Monogamy and fidelity are actually attainable traits; you just have to discipline yourself enough to pull through. Nigerian mothers and fathers ram that into the heads of their sons from a very young age. They are discouraged from sharing their feelings with one another or from having feelings at all for that matter, right from a tender age. Raised with this mentality, they bottle up their emotions and learn to only express them via anger or mean spirited acts. They become heard-hearted, lacking empathy.
And worse, since they believe the female is the one who can have emotions, they believe that the female owes them some kind of free, maternalistic, emotional labor. The truth, however, is that the Nigerian male, just like the female has tear ducts. He can actually produce tears if he tried. He has hormones as well and can fell things just as the female. It is okay for him to cry, to feel jealous, crave a massage, scream in fear…e.
It only makes him human. He Has to Preserve the Family Name and Bring Home the Bacon Nigerian men are raised with the belief that they will eventually be the breadwinner of their own families.
They will have to go to work, make money and provide for themselves, their wives, children, and even extended family members who cannot help themselves. He is supposed to earn more than his wife, and upon marriage, the wife will have to take on his surname and bear him sons, that will pass on the family name.
She will be humble and be the neck, while he remains the head. This mentality is fostered by tradition, culture, and religion, but it is not necessarily the truth of his existence. This belief puts a lot of pressure on him and also sets him up such that he has expectations that may not even be realistic.
These expectations cause problems in his marriage or lead to depression. No, a man does not have to be the bread-winner; his wife can take up the role, if she earns more and has better work ethics. No, the wife must not take on his surname, unless she wishes to. And no, he does not have to pass on the family name. Right from a tender age, it is ingrained in his mind that being a male means he is the more intelligent sex. He grows up with an almost strong disregard for women.
If a woman does better than him socially or professionally, he feels terrible. Sexually, he likes to control women and gives little or no attention to their sexual pleasure: He is different with men though. He will be late for appointments and dates with women, but be quite punctual with men. Even when he is in a relationship or married, he will talk endlessly to her about their lives, even ask for her opinion, but as soon as the conversation wraps up, god forbid she starts talking about her hard day at work!
His eyes glaze over with boredom, and suddenly he realizes that he cannot stand gossip. Unfortunately, being a male does not mean you are the more intelligent sex. Both man and women are born equal. These comments suggest that being male in Nigeria means you can get away with just about anything. The gender socialization in patriarchal contexts prime men, not just take on positions of power, but also to believe that they are almost invincible. He is raised to feel a sense of ownership and entitlement over almost everything.
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He believes that he should be able to wield a certain amount of authority and power over every situation; otherwise, it is perceived as a mark against his masculinity. The truth is, being a man does not absolve you from certain responsibilities. You remain accountable for your actions despite your sex. Pride is Paramount The average Nigerian man is cocky, controlling, and self-centered.
This is probably because he is raised to believe that he is not a man if he does not have pride. They will go bankrupt purchasing an item just to prove a point, or even sell his house to earn a title. It is great to have a measure of pride in oneself, but at what cost?
The world is moving forward, and so should you. Why this might all be true. It is very evident that majority of women in Nigeria prefer this type of men, as opposed to a refined gentlemen. I have met lots of ladies who get unresistably attracted to me cause of these tendencies most especially pride and telling them what to do. It is almost as if they crave to be subdued. I once told an older male friend that only 2 types of women can date him: That said, a lot of Nigerian women are trained to have a certain level of low self esteem,a certain timidity when it comes to men so somehow the equation balances.
Every day I live, I bless God for my mum, she married a good man successful in his own right but a very good man and together they raised wise sons. My elder brother would have ended up like the men above but my parents stamped that stupidity out of him.
This article may be true, but unfortunately not unique to Nigerian men.. Ever heard of the Law of Attraction? It might be a load of bull, but the fact Is, we tend to attract what we want subconsciously. Have you thought that maybe, just maybe those are the sort of women you have experience with because subconsciously you like women who let you make all the decisions and direct the course of their lives and so those are the sort of women you pursue?
There are insecure people of both or all genders.
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Controlling women also tend to attract men weaker and less secure than they are. Also, your confirmation bias may make you interpret your dating experiences along the lines of your pre-existing beliefs about women. Maybe try something different.
You might be pleasantly surprised. Believe me, is not a question of affordability. Although I agree quite a few of them know what they want and an infinitesimal number know how to get it. They are the numero uno amongst the abundant damsel in distress. In fact, I have actually being involved with one. A true modern day feminist, career driven, high self esteem. She has achieved a relative successful career as she has a dozen of people under, and I like to see her win.
Whenever I see her doing her thing, it gives me joy, as I see her as mini-me. Best believe it also a great turn on. But at the end of the day, she always looked back to me for an approval or at least a nod. Not that this is wrong, as we all need advice here and there.
However, any slight doubt on my part throws her ideas and believes into chaos. How is it evident that majority of women prefer this type of men biko? It has nothing to do with being a gentleman but treating women like how you want your sister and mother to be treated. It all has to do with mentality and having a conscience in dealing with people.
The article is correct in referring to the problem being how men are raised. In addition, how Nigerian women love their Nigerian men.
I can relate to that a little bit, but not in the same exact manner. I think she does because you matter to her. I value the opinions of my boyfriend, my best friend, and my mum. If I ask for an opinions or advice and any of them disapprove of it, I get super worried and start to reevaluate my plans.
I get worried because they matter to me, regardless of sex. Erm… I get the angle of this piece, and Nigerian society definitely has a big problem, but it just seemed a little… hostile I dunno. Yes, society needs to evolve but in my small experience, people tend to listen to me less when I come, guns blazing.
You might get better success though. Loki I think we may have clashed once or more times here but one this one I agree wholehearted with you. The article is hostile and makes it seems like Nigerian women are victims and are blameless.
Nigeria women too have a lot of issues they need to deal with. Trying to solve the inequality between the sexes by being hostile and brash will go nowhere. We both need each other in many ways than one. Then again, I have a very short attention span on social media…. While at the same time thinking they are kings that know it all, deserve it all and are above women.
I am a widow and after just over two years my friends told me to try internet dating. As I was in my 40's I thought I would join a site for over plus dating which you pay a subscription for and I thought would be safe. I started chatting to a guy who said he was english born but his father was american. He was working for the united nations as an orthapedic surgeon which I thought was a bit of a story but I went along with it.
We were chatting for a few weeks and he suggested going onto messenger as it would save money on subscriptions. He told me things like he was also a widower and told me about his wife etc.
This went on for 3 months. I gave him my mobile and he rang me each evening and we would chat for 5 or 10 mins at a cost to him not me.
He even rang me when I was on holiday in Spain. When I came back we chatted for another couple of weeks and then he asked me for some money so that he could home and we could be together. I was so gullible for the love but as soon as he asked me for money I cut him off completely. The best advice I can give you is if anyone asks for money or your bank details to transfer money into - cut them off totally and report them to the site you originally met on. I also did some checking on other sites and also facebook and reported him on each site in a hope that nobody else can be conned by him.
But I will say if they sound too good to be true cut them off and don't even say anything to them just get rid of them as soon as possible for the sake of your heart and in a lot of circumstances your pocket.
They pretend to be soldiers, working in Pakistan and also in jobs that will pull at your heart strings to make you fall for them as soon as possible. Please take this warning and be very careful and forget about how you feel when you find out, and get them reported to whoever you can.
Click here to add your own comments. Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. Simply click here to return to Nigerian Dating Scams. Nigerian Dating Scam - I've been there by Catherine Sheffield, UK I am a widow and after just over two years my friends told me to try internet dating. Dec 26, Rating Scammer: Anonymous A guy named Harry Beller contacted me on Facebook. He claimed he was from Florida, a widower with a 15 year old daughter, working on a contract with United Nations as an Orthopedic doctor in Syria.
I chatted casually with him on FB messenger then he asked me to download Google Hangouts. I didn't like Hangouts but he insisted on using Hangouts. I felt suspicious because he started the chat on FB messenger but then for some reasons, he wanted to chat on Hangouts and asked me my Gmail.
His English was a bit strange too. My heart told me there is something wrong with that guy. I searched on the internet and found his pic on one website saying that he is a scammer. He had stole someone pic and pretended to be an architect named John William, and now became a fake Orthopedic doctor named Harry Beller. I blocked him on FB right away and he still texted me on Hangouts asking me why I blocked him.
Oh well, he is so stupid. Please don't forget to block him on Hangouts too. Dec 25, Rating Doctor scam by: Claiming he lost his wife and has a Daughter, Maya. Dec 25, Rating Local scam Mixon Frank by: Anonymous I met him on Tinder.
Sent nice pictures of himself and even video but ignored my request to send a selfie. He allegedly works as an orthopedic doctor for the UN. As soon as I showed him my doubts he said he does not like my attitude. Nothing good will be out of it. Also he should be cautious since he does not want to be hurt.
He sent me a link - I guess to spy on me and fish for personal information. He does not live in Africa. He obviously lives in USA. He gave me his cell phone number. It is I was trying to find any information about his name or job.
He disappeared finding an excuse. Dec 22, Rating I don't know by: General Maxwell Patel He has asked me for money but I don't have any and he's still involved with me. But I'm still cautious about him. Dec 21, Rating Dr. Anonymous I was friended on FB by a Dr. I don't usually accept these requests however it said I had a mutual friend which was correct on his facebook page.
He was intelligent, funny sent many photos of himself even of when he was a child and teenager, 30's and 40's etc. Then requested it be sent to me and I would have to pay the charges of EU3, to be shipped. He even had the "shipping co" email me. I knew it was a scam and kept asking questions and he would sometimes get upset. In the end I called him out on it. Please do not friend this man. No children divorced for 7 years lost most his money in the divorce.
Dec 21, Rating Dr james brown orthopaedic surgeon working in Syria for u. Anonymous Thanks for your comments about reporting these low lifes to the fbi.
I was hesitant at first because I felt so incredibly foolish that I let myself be taken in and lost all of my hard hard-earned money. Dr James Brown email is drjamesbrownun gmail. He is a very evil man and should be stopped at all costs and I intend to report him to every agency that I can to try and stop him from doing this to another innocent person.
Dec 20, Rating Dr Alex Williams by: After several days of nice general chit chat he asked me to download Hangouts app, which I did. His general chatting soon turned to romance and a marriage proposal. He was very careful not to answer any of my questions too. I told him that there needed to be a real Address not a P. I told him there was no way that I was paying any money out and called him out as a scammer.
Anonymous Thank you all for posting your stories. The scammers need to be punished. I just experienced very similar things, lost Some money, very stupid mistake.
Together we can make the scammers disappear. If the scam originated through a particular website, notify the administrators of that website. The usual has a 10 year old girl on photos the little girl looks Oriental said wife died 5 years ago. Met via twitter then of course Hangouts. Appears the ideal man and is very romantic and sends nice images and tells you how beautiful you are and how he wants to marry you.
Asked for the safe keeping of some items and he has overdue fees that need paying - reduces contact when refused. Openly said he will look on twitter social media sites for someone to pay these. Please warn all female friends, relatives and colleagues. There are actually 3 Dr Smiths on twitter. Has anyone else experienced this person, I sometimes doubt myself and feel he is genuine.
But feel he was setting me up to scam me. Please let me know if you have come across this man. Dec 18, Rating Eric Donald by: Anonymous Chatting with an orthopedic surgeon in Afghanistan. He is very charming. After a few weeks he insisted he needed money in the amount of to get his vacation papers and medical records sent to his Camp to keep him from being sent into the Field.
Claims he is a UN doctor who is under contract with the Afghanistan government. Be careful as not sure how these jokers find you. This happened on Instagram. Dec 15, Rating Dr. Anonymous Thomas Grey orthopaedic surgeon in Bahgdad.
Wife died 5 years ago.