The Pros and Cons of Dating a Younger Man
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Never feel ashamed about an age gap so small. Im 27 and i just met a guy who is 25 and i must tell you this guy treats me with respect and im like woww. Really , i just wan t to take it slow before i go into a relationship with him.
But another thing is how he and his family feel about my tribe. Ive never been lucky with a man from his tribe because i dont speak their language. Im 18 and my boyfriend is 15 turning 16 in a couple months and i always felt really awkward about the age difference since i usually date older guys.
Yes im in this 7 months relationship now. Im 28 years old and he is 20 years old turning 21 this april… I havent told my parents about this but my mun found about it through facebook and send me a pm that I should stop seeing him because he still a student and I should be looking for someone that I could settle down with.
Im scared since I dont know what will happened in th future , i mean he is still young. He still in the stage of doing exciting stuff and here i am preferring the laid back things to do.. So my crush is 3 days younger than me, help? And tell me how to get his gf to break up with him…. If you want to talk about older and younger think bigger like a 20 year age gap otherwise, it is a non story. I am about to date a guy who is is about three years younger than me and at the moment, I feel like such a cougar.
Anytime I show him to my friends they tell me how young he looks compared to me, and it breaks my heart. I wish I could close the age gap, but I know there is nothing I can do. Not a big deal, and not a big difference at all. I see you're 17, so dating a 16 year old wouldn't be mind boggling.
A year difference at any dating age isn't. I definitely would not date someone younger than me.
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My current boyfriend is four years older than me and while sometimes I feel like he is lightyears ahead of me as far as his education and career, I think that we are on similar maturity levels. I want to be with someone who has their life on track and who is independent and already making something of themselves, not someone who has just graduated high school.
It's not that there's anything wrong with 18 year old guys. I'm sure plenty of them are totally awesome! It's just not what I want in a relationship.
As you get older you will realize that age really doesn't matter all three guys that I've dated in the past were younger than me by say 1 or 2 years and well they of course didn't work out because we were so different personality wise. I am now talking to some guys that are 2 to 5 years younger than me surprisingly the one that is 5 years younger than me is so mature is shocking.
The others are yes say 2 or 3 years younger than me and while they maybe a bit immature they are so fun and when they do make a mistake they learn from it so they are becoming more mature. I dated a guy 3 years younger and that was a fail lol but I'm also mature for my age and he wasn't so it was just no. I've also dated a guy one year younger than me and it didn't bother me at all. I say if you like him, go for it! This is aaaaaaaaall about the age bracket, honestly.
Between , I wouldn't've dated someone younger. There may have been a possible exception, but in general, the maturity differences really are that large. However, I'm 25 now.
If someone isn't starting to act like an adult by 23, they won't by 30 and age is less important than the quality of the person. In fact, my older sister ended up marrying a man two years her junior and there's never been any issues over it at all.
At my age, not even a blip on the radar.
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He's more mature than I, and more responsible. But he's also the dominant one, he's in charge, and we both like it that way. If it's just a year, I don't really care. Honestly it's not about age it's about the maturity! Sometimes younger people than you can be a bit more spontaneous and ready to jump into things It really depends on the person. I am currently dating a guy who is 1 year and a couple days younger than me, it's funny cuz when my birthday comes, I'll be older than him by 2 years but only god a couples days and then he has his birthday and it's 1 year again.
But he's in the same grade as me but I'm old for my grade cuz I had to repeat cuz of location issues. But honestly I don't mind, it doesn't make a difference if he's a year younger or older, he would still be the same guy he is and I like him for that, and usually I like dating guys who r older but now that I'm dating someone younger I realize it doesn't really matter.
I am currently interested in a man that is a year younger than me. He is a sweet heart. Good sense of humor. Depends on the man, honestly. I don't think its a bad thing at all. I personally have a two up two down policy, where I won't date anyone more than two years older or younger than me. Just keeps me organized. But, I did like this guy once who was a year younger, and frankly it was fine.
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We had the same relationship as we would have had had he been my age. My ex was 8 months younger than me. At first he came off pretty immature We started dating at 15 but as our relationship progressed he actually became more mature than me. I'd say it just depends on your maturity levels. A year isn't enough that people are going to stop and stare at you like you're some cradle robber. I always liked older men so I thought it would be too weird at first but once you really love someone you forget the age gap even exist and the things you do notice can be fun lol.
I have and I would. My bf was a year younger than me, but mentally he was a lot older. I don't think age should ever be a problem. Some people are "old" for their age or the other way around.
The only thing that matters are the feelings for each other. If those are good, than there's nothing to worry about. My boyfriends a year younger than me.
No one knows because i look 16 but yea. Its no different than dating someone older. In HS my boyfriend was a year younger, but he had skipped a grade. It really made not difference.
Also a HS teacher had slept with him and taught him the ropes at age 15 so he knew how to do everything when we eventually started making love in college. This was years ago and I still run into him.
He is just fine. My husbad is 3 years younger and that is fine. I'm currently dating my first and current boyfriend who is 10 months younger than me. Personally, I found it weird when we first started out, but I got used to it. He treats me like a queen and I can say that none of the guys that I liked who were older than me treated me that way.
Though it varies with everyone. Give someone a chance and it will surprise you.
The phenomenon of men dating younger women is depicted everywhere in pop culture. Hollywood movies frequently cast much older male actors to star alongside young actresses, and the same actors are often snapped by paparazzi dating much younger women in real life. Male singers have long referenced younger women in songs with epithets like "baby" and "little girl" and now it's increasingly common for women to refer to their sexual partners as "daddy".
The idea that it's normal and natural for men to date women five, 10, 15 or even 20 years younger than them is pretty firmly culturally ingrained at this point. However, it's worth taking a second look at whether this phenomenon should continue to be taken for granted. There are certain difficulties that accompany every relationship with a large age gap, but in the case of men dating younger women, there's also a tricky power dynamic that needs to be considered.
So, if you're thinking about dating a younger woman, here are five things you should bear in mind before doing so:.
Speaking in general terms, older people have more social power than younger people, and, in a variety of demonstrable ways and despite measurable progress in this area, men have more power than women. Hence, when you combine the two variables — an older man and a younger woman — the power dynamic favors the older man. The bigger the age gap between you, and the younger she is, the more skewed the power dynamic will be in your favor.
Other variables like race, class and gender identity will also factor in to the power balance of your relationship. The presence of a skewed power dynamic does not necessarily mean that a relationship with an age gap should never happen, but it does mean that you need to take extreme care, and in certain cases it's sensible to decide that the power dynamic is too out of whack for a relationship to be formed.
Age of consent laws help us to draw a clear legal line between women who are too young to date and women who aren't, but aside from this, every man must draw his own moral line.
It certainly depends heavily on the age of the younger woman rather than just the quantity of the age gap. For example, when a rapper in his late 20s dates a year-old celeb, people find it suspicious and harmful, but fewer people think a much larger, plus-years age gap between some celebrity couples is objectionable if the woman is in her 30s when they got together — these are fully grown women capable of making their own decisions and much less likely to be affected by peer pressure.
Again, though, these are not hard and fast lines or rules, and you need to draw your own moral lines. A young woman can be smart, witty and worldly, but she is, by definition, not mature or experienced. Certain life experiences and personal qualities only come from being alive on earth for a decent length of time, so if you are considering dating a woman who you would otherwise think is too young but for the fact that she's "really mature for her age," stop kidding yourself.
If your prospective partner is fresh out of high school, having never weathered a job loss, heartbreak or any of the other hallmarks of adult life, you are a going to struggle to relate to each other, and b she is not going to be well-equipped with the tools needed for a serious relationship yet.
Stereotypically speaking, when a young woman dates an older man she may have a few qualities in mind that she expects you to have: She may think that guys her own age are immature and directionless, and be looking for an older guy to provide more stability for her. Which is all well and good, except if you're as directionless and financially insecure as the men she's trying to avoid. Or maybe she's not looking for financial security, but she thinks you're going to be a complete gentleman who will woo her with flowers and chocolates, whereas you're not the slightest bit romantic in the traditional sense.
She might have completely unrealistic expectations of men in general, or she might simply have unrealistic expectations from you in particular that you are never going to be able to meet, and you will need to work those out before starting something serious.
Similarly, you might be tempted to date a younger woman rather than someone your own age because of a cliched idea that they have a relative lack of "issues", are more wild, fun, flexible, and so on. This isn't a great way of looking at things: You expect your partner to love you, warts and all, so if you're only dating younger women because you think that they're relatively "flawless", you're going about things entirely the wrong way.
The only way you can figure this stuff out is to talk openly about your expectations. If she's seeking a silver fox who will open car doors for her and order Champagne at every restaurant you visit, you're going to need to be straight with her if you're not going to be providing that for her.
Let her know that you're a person she'll be dating, not a weird father figure or security blanket. Likewise, she can let you know that she's a human woman with flaws and insecurities, not a hot babe who will never "burden" you with a single emotional need. Just kidding, we know you don't expect or want that at all. You don't want that, right? Let's say you're not burdened by the above issues: You're not looking for a flawless one-dimensional sex doll and she's not looking for a sugar daddy either — you're just two regular people who like each other and clicked, and there happens to be an age gap between you.
It's still worth considering the "stage of life" problem, though. While not everyone moves through life at the same pace and ticks off the same milestones at the same time university, work, marriage, babies, buying a house, etc. If your significant other is an amazing person who you mesh with well, but you simply aren't looking for the same things she just wants to party, you're ready to start thinking about settling down and having kids, for example , it's just not going to work out.
These issues can, of course, affect couples who are the same age and who have different priorities, but relationships with a large age gap are especially susceptible to the "stage of life" problem.
It pays to look very closely and honestly at your reasons for considering dating a younger woman. If you're ignoring a disturbing power imbalance — or you're dating a younger woman in the hope of avoiding all the "baggage" fully realized adult women bring with them — you need to take a deeper look at your priorities.
Your partner isn't a trophy to show off to your friends and coworkers, she's a human with her own interests, struggles, insecurities and past. If that scares you, you might not be ready for a relationship at all, let alone one with a younger woman. However, maybe you've met a woman you really vibe with, and she's younger but not too young, and you've talked about everything — your expectations, where you are in life, your goals for the next few years, etc — and you're aligned.
In this case, you'll still need to treat carefully for all of the above reasons, but if you're really feeling each other, go for it.